Goodbye Reception for Johnny Lewis & Family

Sunday, August 1 • 10:00 am

Among the many losses of Covid, our congregation lost the opportunity to properly say goodbye to the church’s pastor, Johnny Lewis. But that loss will be rectified on Sunday, August 1, when Johnny and his family will join us for worship at the usual time of 10:00 am.  There will be a cake and cookie reception following the worship service.

Circle the date on your calendar and plan to be present in worship that Sunday.  Please bring a note or card that expresses your appreciation for his ministry.

a little r & r

As we begin this Sunday our next sermon series on What Ministers Wish Church Members Knew, based upon former KC Disciple pastor Jan Linn, I thought you might be intrigued by material I call “Recycling Relationships: 4 Predictable Stages in all human relationships.” These four stages apply to marriages, family relationships, jobs and careers, as well as to the length of pastors’ ministry in churches they serve.

The 4 stages are: Courtship, Commitment, Trust & Productivity & Disillusionment. A normal cycle for these 4 stages lasts 5-8 years, meaning it is often possible for each cycle to be renewed many times. A typical cycle lasts 7 years, made popular decades ago by a famous movie titled, “The Seven Year Itch,” with actors Tom Ewell and Marilyn Monroe.

Relationships of all kinds are not bound by 7 years. To Wit: René and I have been married 50 years, suggesting we have gone through approximately 7 cycles of 7 years each and are now in the second year of our 8th cycle. So, when you read “Disillusionment” as the 4th stage, I don’t mean this is the “Final stage,” though this often is the case in many clergy-church relationships where a pastor moves on around the 7th year.

The stages are easily recognizable. The Courtship Stage is the Information Gathering Stage. Questions are asked about expectations, “chemistry” in the relationship , whether the 2 parties are a “good fit. The song “Getting to Know You!” from the musical “The King & I,” captures the theme of this first stage. This stage usually lasts 3-6 months in the Pastoral Search.

The second stage is the Commitment Stage. Clearly, this stage overlaps the other stages as the other stages overlap each other, but initially there is a public dimension. The wedding ceremony, the installation of the new pastor, an official welcome at work (though not usually for minimum wage or temporary employment), are typical public announcements. Often there is a “honeymoon” in the relationship when it feels like “all is well in the world!” Between clergy and congregation this stage normally lasts approximately six months, even though good feelings persist much longer.

The third stage is marked by Trust & Productivity and composes the major balance of time in the 5-8 year cycle. This stage is based upon mutual satisfaction between pastor and parish, when a partnership is forged that produces many positive results in and for the church.

The final stage in this single cycle is Disillusionment. Normally some fatigue sets in. But this stage needs not be debilitating to the relationship. Educators and clergy sabbaticals usually occur at or near this stage in acknowledgement (spoken or tacit) of the need for refreshment and increased creativity. The Eli Lilly Endowment support for pastoral sabbaticals is even called “The Clergy Renewal Project” and can happen in conjunction with this stage.

This 4th Stage is often marked by an awareness of flaws in both the pastor and the church, which may need attention. If conflict arises—a clear mark of this stage—anxiety can grow in the relationship. But if performance issues arise for either or both parties, these need to be brought out in the open.

Many churches function with a committee, called a Pastoral Relations Committee, which serves not as a conflict management team, but as a strong support to the pastor. Regional Ministers can be of great help to a church in defining how the “PRC” can function in support of the pastor.

A danger sign for the church is if their pastor begins to feel no one is there to support them. Pastors can easily feel increasingly isolated in a profession that will always remain difficult to explain to anyone who is not a pastor.

How else might a church recycle their relationship to a pastor so she/he can move into a second cycle of 5-8 years? One thing they can do is “Renegotiate the Relationship.” In fact, another title for this cycle is “The Role Renegotiation Model.” The best way to do this is to consciously return to Stage One and start all over again. This is a time to court one another again and listen to each other’s changing needs and stories. This is the healthiest way to approach the 4th stage of Disillusionment, before it grows out of control and leads to a parting of the ways. Like good marriages, there is a basic understanding of how needs and wants of each partner may have changed over the initial 7 years.

But there are other alternatives, not as healthy and likely to end in parting company.
One is to try to re-engage at Stage 3: Trust & Productivity. Doing this may give the appearance all is well when it is not and when needs and expectations remain unmet. I have often told engaged couples preparing for their wedding that a recipe for conflict is when expectations (not just hopes) go unarticulated. Vocalizing those expectations and needs and listening to the partner is the best course for ensuring a new cycle will unfold. This is true of the clergy-congregation relationship.

Another lesser alternative is to “Kiss and Make-up” or sweep everything under the rug and hope the unhappiness will just disappear! This is like returning to the 2nd stage and recommitting without asking the questions of Stage 1. Both parties end up failing to listen to the other partner’s thoughts, feelings, hopes and disappointments.

Normally these last 2 alternatives: “Kiss and Make-Up” or acting as though “Trust & Productivity” are all in place only accelerate deterioration of the relationship leading again to Disillusionment, but in much less time than the 5-8 years.

Of course, one other option remains and that is when the first cycle moves to Disillusionment and the pastor chooses to move on. This decision doesn’t always have to do with dynamics in the clergy-parish relationship; but is often the case. Many times churches have no idea why the pastor resigned, but that doesn’t lessen the pain of a beloved pastor’s departure. This why the care and feeding of the pastor throughout a cycle is so critical. We will talk about that later in this 3-part sermon series coming up through this month of July.

René and I are always open to visiting with anyone about the things I have mentioned in this r&r or in any other r&r I have written. I truly believe learning about these 4 stages in “Recycling Relationships” can lead to another happy, productive relationship with a new pastor as well as happier relationships in other areas of our life. Feel free to hang onto this article for future reference with your new pastor whomever he or she may be or for any relationship that you treasure.

Blessings!
Rick

a little r & r

With spiritual, emotional, and historical implications, the seasons of life, have always been a compelling subject to me. Combined with my persistent need to know “Why?” these seasons are never far from my consciousness. Due to the chaos of events that began with Hurricane Katrina in 2005, the onset of the Great Recession from 2007-2009 through the Obama and Trump Presidencies, these seasons of life are on the front burner of my mind.

Because I loving visiting bookstores, I keep running into a book I read some years ago titled The Fourth Turning about the 4 seasons of life in American history. The book was written by the late Harvard political scientist Bill Strauss, founder of the Capitol Steps Satirical Musical Comedy Group out of D.C., and Neil Howe, Yale economist and historian who serves as a consultant for the Global Aging Initiative at the Center for Strategic Studies. Prior to The Fourth Turning they co-authored what many demographers regard as the seminal work on generational studies: Generations: The History of America’s Future: 1584-2069.

With the publication of The Fourth Turning in 1997, Strauss & Howe predicted our nation would see the climax of a crisis in 2020 and the emergence of another “gray champion” (from author Nathaniel Hawthorne’s classic story) who would usher in a new economic “zeitgeist,” resembling a New New Deal. I leave it to you to connect the dots.

But first: What is a Fourth Turning?

It is a Winter-like period of crisis and chaos, which recurs approximately every 80 to 100 years in American history. It’s two most notable marks are economic and military in nature. To wit: The Great Recession reached its zenith in 2009, almost exactly 80 years after Black Friday, the Wall Street Crash on October 29, 1929, when the New York Stock Exchange collapsed.

Starting with the American Revolution from 1777-1783, the U.S. has engaged in a major war every 80 years: The American Civil War from1861-1865 and WWII from 1941-1945. While other wars have broken out and been consequential the above wars are considered the most defining in the lasting effect they have had on American society and the American consciousness.

Our understanding of the 4th Turning and its recurrence is enhanced by at least a cursory introduction of the last First, Second, and Third Turnings: First Turnings are like the “Happy Days” of the late 1940’s to mid-1960’s and called “Highs.” They are America’s Spring times. This was when Baby Boomers were being born and America emphasized building and rebuilding its hallowed institutions and infrastructure, from churches to the Eisenhower Interstate System.

Second Turnings are Summers & spiritual “Awakenings.” They were the Age of Aquarius from 1965 to 1985, when Boomers became young adults & GenXers (the Latch Key Kids) were born. This was when First Lady Nancy Reagan’s “Just Say No!” offensive in the War on Drugs came into vogue.

Third Turnings are Autumns of “Unraveling” when long-trusted institutions like churches began their numerical decline and states began withdrawing tax funding for schools. Boomers were now turning middle age. Millennials were being born. The Third Turning covers the years from 1985-2005. The representative remark of this Unraveling was Ronald Reagan’s comment not to call the government to solve any problem because “government is the problem.”

Finally, another “Winter of Discontent” 4th Turning Crisis emerged with the poor federal response to Hurricane Katrina, which nearly wiped-out New Orleans in late August 2005. The last previous 4th Turning occurred from 1929-1945, with the Great Depression & WWII. If the 18-25 year period pattern for each turning holds, the present 4th Turning will conclude between 2023 and 2030. How it will conclude remains a mystery.

On the downside, Fourth Turnings often leave their scars, like the Collapse of Wall Street & the Attack on Pearl Harbor. Fourth Turnings often demand long neglected institutions, like churches and schools be renewed, often with new paradigms, such as increased live streaming and hybrid or distant learning. But the upside of 4th Turnings is that they become house-cleanings and can lead to major corrections and advances like the creation of Social Security in 1935, and the subsequent development of America’s Middle Class, the largest such development in world history!

Howe indicates that Fourth Turnings also normally make for political realignments: the establishment of the U.S. as an independent nation after the Revolution, the emancipation of slaves (Juneteenth) and Reconstruction after the Civil War, and the New Deal rise of the Middle Class and the U.S. as the wealthiest nation on earth following WWII.

What might happen after this present 4th Turning in the way of political realignment? No one has a crystal ball, but the two most likely options are either a new progressive era or the replacement of democracy with fascism and autocracy. The ending of this present Fourth Turning has yet to be written, though nearly everyone agrees the political stakes are very high.

What difference might this information make? What inferences might we draw?

One inference we don’t need to draw is that these recurring turnings are a bow to fatalism. Not so. While the four turnings—based upon the Greek “saeculum,” or seasons—do have a stubborn way of showing each of their faces across an ordinary 80-year lifetime, they do not tell us exactly how they might unfold.

One biblical inference we can draw, based upon the wisdom of the preacher Koheleth in Ecclesiastes is that there is still truth in his words, “For everything there is a season and a time under heaven.” Life’s pendulum often swings between tears & laughter, life & death, peace and war.

But most of all, there is this optimistic note: The United States has weathered crises and chaos before. Yes, there are high stakes: Will majority elections be upheld, or will the country opt for minority rule, becoming a new kind of apartheid government controlled by economic and/ or political self-appointed elites? Will climate change alter either national and/or global politics and economies and civil societies? Still, our country has met terrible challenges before with hope and courage. Media bring these issues to us so quickly via Smart Phone, TV, social media, they often, unintentionally ratchet up our anxiety!

Yet, as Christians, we are not enslaved by any human event, no matter how glorious or despairing. What sets us apart (along with at least the other Abrahamic faiths) is our conviction that the Ultimate Will of God (cf. Leslie Weatherhead’s The Will of God) will prevail. We believe, as the scriptures say, “Heaven and earth may pass away, but my word will never pass away.” And if we believe that “Nothing beautiful is lost to God,” (Alfred North Whitehead), then “Nothing can ever separate us from God’s love.”

So, take heart, friends! As President Franklin Delano Roosevelt spoke so eloquently immediately after Pearl Harbor, “We have nothing to fear but fear itself.”

Be at peace!
Rick

 

New Sermon Series Begins Sunday, July 11

Sundays in July • 10:00 am 

Interim Pastors Rick and René Jensen begin a short sermon series on July 11.  The series entitled “What Ministers Wish Church Members Knew” is aimed at helping prepare the church for its new pastor.  Loosely based on a book of the same name by Disciple pastor Jan Linn, the series will suggest some of the things that are important for lay members to know so that they can support your new pastor in his or her ministry.

 

July 11             Failure Is Not an Option—It’s a Necessity

July 18             First Pastors and Congregations Get Married And Then They Fall in Love

July 25             The Care and Feeding of Your Pastor

Celebration of Life For Sylvia Smith

Monday, July 5 • Celebration of Life

Sylvia Hope Smith, mother of Tresa Vogel, passed away June 16th. A Celebration of Life will be held on July 5, 2021 at Shawnee Community Christian Church.

The service will be casual with her family wearing Mickey Mouse t-shirts to honor Sylvia. You are welcome to join us in your Mickey Mouse “gear” or your favorite KU/Kansas City sports team. Visitation is from 3:30-4:30 p.m. with service immediately following. Please join us after the service at Sar-Ko-Par Trails Park, Grand Pavilion Shelter, 14907 West 87th Street, Lenexa, Kansas 66215 for a picnic dinner.

In lieu of flowers, please consider donating to The American Cancer Society or Shawnee Community Christian Church.

 

 

a little r & r

The most exciting question I consistently have been asked while being interviewed by a Search Committee is this: How would you describe your CALL TO MINISTRY? I say, “the most exciting question” because I revel in revisiting my spiritual past in describing my call to ministry. I’ll spare you the details here, though I’m always open to sharing my story to anyone interested.

But I have always appreciated the consistent way Search Committees ask this question, using the word, “CALL” to ministry. The reason? Ever since I started doing interims in 2011 I’ve noticed most parishioners talk of “hiring our next minister,” with the emphasis on the word “HIRING.” I’ve even caught myself using the word “hired” instead of “called.”

Yet, fact is: I don’t recall God ever saying to me, “Rick, I want to ‘hire’ you to be one of my pastors.” In fact, when I think about my call—and I’d bet anything other pastors would share this perspective—the words “HIRE” or “HIRED” were never a part of the conversation.

And it isn’t that using the word “hired” is inapt. Pastors and churches sign contracts of employment, contained in “A Letter of Call” all the time. Arrangements in that letter are made for salary, housing, pension, and insurance coverage (the big four items in a compensation package), along with vacations, sick leave, & reimbursements. You get the picture.

Still, a word more suited for the marketplace, “hired,” dominates many church conversations about bringing a new pastor on board, while the word “calling” tends to get pushed back into a corner, fairly-well out-of-sight and out-of-mind.

Why is this?

My hunch is that it has to do with the overwhelming influence the marketplace has on all of us, including our spiritual vocabulary. Employers and employees don’t speak of job listings as “callings,” but “hirings.” I think most would say God has nothing to do with hiring and firing.

And this confusion in our language affects how we view our own lives. Imagine: if people were to ask us “Besides your family and friends, where do you find the greatest fulfillment in your life?” we’d probably list ourr favorite hobby or hobbies. These are sometimes referred to as our “avocations,” while speaking of our jobs as our “vocations.”

But in practice and in terms of the positive emotional investment these terms should be reversed. Our hearts are more invested in our hobbies, our REAL vocations and less so in our jobs (though not always) which are more like our avocations, on the sidelines of what we most truly invest the best of our hearts and minds.

Then one day I heard noted Methodist church consultant Kennon Callahan tell a clergy audience that if we wanted to know what most laypeople’s true calling is, ask them what they have the most fun doing. Callahan understood that the things we most love to do, give us real joy, are most likely aligned with our true vocation, which literally means our true “calling.”

He suggested that both clergy and laypeople have it “bass-ackwards;” that, indeed our true vocation isn’t our job, but more likely our hobby, and that our avocation isn’t our hobby, but our true divine calling.

Theologically Callahan was saying in so many words that God takes pleasure in what gives us pleasure and wants us to be happy and not miserable with what we do with our lives. He was saying that each of us has a ministry and are ministers, doing what we deeply love and gives us our deepest joy, whether we get paid for it or volunteer. Those who have been able to match their joy with their action are very possibly the most blessed people on earth!

Several times I’ve heard people say here at SCCC how many members volunteered at the church, often doing as many as two, three, even four jobs at once around the church. Then, of course, the pandemic hit and then the church’s former pastor Johnny Lewis left and everything suddenly stopped. People’s participation plummeted when the church could no longer do in-person worship, mission trips were cancelled, Sunday School went virtual, and fellowship/study groups could no longer meet. The church has never been quite the same since, like a lot of churches who suffered through the pandemic. A lot of people are counting on a new pastor to light a fire under the church again.

But how will we look at the new pastor: as someone “Called” by God and the church to be the next senior pastor or “Hired” by the church to lead the congregation?

And how will faithful members and friends of the congregation look at their participation after the new pastor is called to the church and installed? As persons called by God through the church to fulfill their “calling” or as mere “volunteers” filling various positions.
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My hunch is the reason so many people volunteered to do so many jobs around the church is that they felt deeply that what they were doing was a calling, whether they recognized it as such or not! I believe people were willing to do multiple volunteer things around the church because they sensed those things they were doing were more than just jobs but real experiences of the Holy, of God calling upon them to help the church fulfill its kingdom potential.

They were, in the best sense of the term “ministers doing ministry” both in the church and beyond the church to fulfill the congregation’s mission on behalf of the kingdom and kindom of God.

Thing is: God keeps calling us through the church to do all kinds of ordinary things that have extraordinary impact on us and on others, including our families. God believes in us more than we believe in ourselves.

Maybe it’s time, even past-due time, everybody started believing in ourselves again and believing that God believes in us too. With very likely the worst of the pandemic behind us, it’s time to get off the bench and back in the game!

See you soon!
Rick

 

Chicks & Chips

Wednesday, June 30th • Sombrero’s in Shawnee

Who’s ready for Chicks & Chips to start up again at Sombrero’s?

Let’s meet on Wednesday, June 30th at 7:00 pm. All are welcome to attend. Laughter, conversation and food food will be in abundance. It will be great to reconnect with everyone!

Sombrero’s is located at 22702 Midland Dr., Shawnee, KS 66226.

Who Are We as Disciples Sermon Series Continues Sunday

Join us on Sunday as we continue our sermon series, Who Are We as Disciples? On Sunday, we will be talking about the importance of scripture for Disciples. It’s going to be a great day at Shawnee Community! We can’t wait to see you at 10:00 am either in-person or online.

June 13: Open Book (2 Timothy 3:14-17)
The distinctive importance of scripture for Disciples.

 

Coming Up:

June 20: Open People (1 Timothy 3:1-16)
Disciples have historically emphasized the ministry of laity in a way that is not
true in most other denominations.

June 27: Open Minds (John 17:20-24)
Barton Stone said (one of the founders of the Disciples of Christ) said “Christian unity is our polar star” and a passion for Christian unity has defined Disciples since its beginnings.

Children’s Ministry News

 

Join Patt and Katie for Children’s Chat this week either in-person on Sunday or on YouTube!

 

Bible Story: David and Abigail – 1 Samuel 25:1-42
Bible Verse: Happy are people who make peace, because they will be called God’s children. Matthew 5:9

 

This Sunday is Pride Sunday!

Sunday, June 6 • 10:00 am

Join us for Pride Sunday on Sunday, June 6th at 10:00 am, either in-person or on Facebook Live, as we reaffirm our commitment as a church that welcomes, loves and affirms our LGBTQ+ brothers and sisters. Don’t forget to show your pride and wear your Pride gear.

Learn more about the history of Pride month. 

New Sermon Series Begins Sunday

We will also begin our new sermon series exploring the history and core values of the Christian Church (Disciples of Christ)—including why our denomination has this awkward hyphenated name.

June 6: Open Table (1 Corinthians 11:23-26)
This sermon will explore Disciples’ historic and radical for its time commitment to the hospitality of a communion table where ALL are welcome.

 

Join us on Sunday for a great day at Shawnee Community!